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Who are you? Thats the first thing an employer is gong to want to know. Ask yourself what you like to do and what jobs might fit your skills, hobbies and interests. Before you start writing your resume or go for an interview, you must first know your strengths, technical knowledge and areas of weakness. By identifying these factors, you would then be able to convince the employer that you are the right candidate to employ.

Ask Yourself These Questions

What Are My Key Areas Of Interests?

The most important element of planning a career is assessing your interests, skills, values and life style preferences. What types of activities do you like and dislike? What do you do well? Where do you want to live? What types people do you enjoy interacting with?

What Skills Do I Have To Offer?

Consider the prior exposure to some work, voluntary or paid. Find out what you have gained in terms of skills and knowledge that could be usefully transferred to your jobs. Use this information to market yourself better during interviews.

What Do I Value Most?

These are of importance. Being able to effective in ones job does not translate to being satisfied in a particular company. Ask yourself what is important to you. If you value the use of creativity and initiative, you could end up being stifled and miserable in your work in an environment where values are not encouraged.

I Don't See Any Problem

Turning your back on a difficult situation is not going to solve it, so stop denying its existence and deal with it. Denial  is a coping mechanism commonly used by people when something unpleasant happens that they are not prepared to deal with. This is quite natural. After all, everyone wants to keep their lives in order, untroubled by information that requires them to react or pursue a course of action. A certain amount of denial is actually healthy.

For example, if you thought of all the bad things that could possibly happen in the important areas of your life, you would become anxious and depressed. Emotionally healthy people have the ability to focus on the things that are most encouraging and positive, thereby helping themselves stay motivated to deal with life. The truth is: This involves a level of denial.

What is not good is unhealthy denial. This happens when there is something that needs to be dealt with, but you choose to ignore it. There are four basic types of denial that you should be aware of, because they can cause you harm:

Ignoring A Problem

You can choose to completely ignore a situation. However, this denial is actually not effective, because after the situation comes to light, you look back at the things that have happened and ask, "Why didn't I see it?" Think about it. You did see it, or you would not be able to remember it after the fact. It is just that you blanked it out of your awareness. You observed it, but you denied its connection to the real problem t-hat existed.

Discounting Its Significance

Another form of denial involves acknowledging that there is a problem, but discounting its significance. For example, an alcoholic may tell himself: "Sure, I drink sometimes, but I can quit any time I want to." The overbearing manager may tell herself: "Of course I get irritated. Who wouldn't when employees don't perform as they should?" When you convince yourself that you can handle the problem, when things are gradually getting out of hand, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Not Taking Action

In this case, you recognise that there is a problem and understand that it is significant, but you. may tell yourself that that there is no way that change can take place. You tell yourself: "There's no use trying to solve things." Maybe you hope that the problem will resolve itself, because you cannot make the effort required to sort things out.

Inability To Change

Even when you have acknowledged that there is a significant problem and that you have to do something about it, you may still give up before trying, blaming it on destiny or fate. Phrases like"Iwasbornthisway" or "I got my temper from my father" or "I am a failure, and I can never be successful" are common in such situations and are used as an excuse not to take action. It is also a way of delaying having to deal with problems. You tell yourself: "I'll deal with this, just as soon as ....", but there never is a convenient time.

How To Confront Denial

If you saw yourself in any of these scenarios, and you realise that you are in denial about some behavioral pattern that you need to change, what can you do about it? Here are some suggestions:

Be Honest With Yourself

What are the thoughts or situations you have been trying to avoid because they remind you of something that you need to do? What kinds of statements have you rejected defensively because they hit too close to home? If so, what do you plan to do about it?

Face The Truth

It is not pleasant to face aspects of yourself that you would rather not see. Do not be surprised if you feel embarrassed and depressed when you first deal with your habit.

Do Not Procrastinate

The longer you put off doing something about the situation you have been avoiding, the easier it is to slide back into denial. Courageously face your shortcomings, make plans for improvement and stick with them through the struggle of forming healthier habits.

Disappointments, setbacks, and unwelcome changes are facts of life. Some people are able to bounce back easily and become stronger after' dealing with tough situations. Others grow weaker and less optimistic as the experiences of life accumulate. Aspire to be part of the former group, take up the challenge, and you will become a happier and more contented person.


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