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Don't Go Nuts


How to deal with your own friends pack of cracker, even when you want to strangle them with the streamers!

The Worrier

Behavior: Worriers fret themselves sick over everything and anything to the point of hysteria. They may complain of bad sleeping habits, tiredness, irritability and aching muscles.

Medical Diagnosis: Excessive worrying can be a sign of Generalised Anxiety Disorder. They worry about worrying and even feel they have to prevent bad things happening.

Coping: Encourage GAD sufferers to relax and releasing their hands, then doing the same through all the muscle groups - head, face, shoulders and so on. Talk to them about their fears and encourage them to try to step out of the situation and see the worry from a different angle.

'Me' Type

Behavior: These people have to be the centre of attention. They think they're so special; people can't help but focus on them. They have no regard for anyone else's feelings as, in their mind, nobody else matters.

Medical Diagnosis: A person with these traits could be suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). These people are obsessed with being rich, successful or beautiful even if they're not.

Coping: The first to step to dealing with an NPD sufferer is to realize you can't change them but if they're driving up the wall, try putting them down by mentioning the past or a time when they had less to feel superior about.

The Drama Queen

Behavior: These people draw attention to themselves by being overly charming or excessively flirtations and dressing outrageously.

Medical Diagnosis: People who display this sort of behavior could be suffering from Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD). Histrionics do anything for attention. They make up stories, create a scene, or are inappropriately sexually provocative or seductive.

Coping: To handle them, you have to be patient. If you find the histrionics' behavior unacceptable - say she's flirting with your boyfriend = stop and count to 10 before jumping in. Try to see their actions objectively because the histrionic isn't malicious. What you shouldn't do is to confront the HPD sufferer about their behavior.

The Downer

Behavior: People in this group are constantly negative and withdrawn and have low energy and low self-esteem. They can suffer from bad sleep patterns and poor appetites, and they find it difficult to make a decision.

Medical Diagnosis: These are classic signs of Dysthymic Disorder, a low-level depression that can last for years. With their pessimistic view on life, they always assume things will go wrong.

Coping: Coping with dysthymics requires strength and patience. As they can be prone to depression, it's easy for them to become withdrawn, so encourage them to get active. Just 10-minute walk a day help to blow the cobwebs away, and by pumping blood around the body, it gives them a natural high. Boost their self-esteem by asking for their advice. It'll make them feel important and valued. However don't criticize their behavior. Instead, make them feel like they're not alone in the word.

The Sensitive Flower

Behavior: These people are so highly sensitive, even the most harmless remark is seem as an attack. They tend to blame others for their shortcomings and can be very self-righteous, cold and aloof.

Medical Diagnosis: People displaying these traits may be suffering from Paranoid Personality Disorder (PPD). Someone suffering form PPD genuinely believes she's unloved and feels victimized by her family. She can be argumentative, think people are never being fair to her and always feel like the scapegoat.

Coping: The only way to deal with a PPD sufferer is to be aware how they respond to situations. By nature, they're suspicious of others, so any tactics such as complimenting them or confiding in them will only make them question your motives.

When they are spoiling for an argument, avoid exacerbating the situation by listening them and reflecting back to them what they've just said. Say: 'I understand you're upset because you believe&' This way, you'll make them feel heard, rather than offering an opinion or arguing the point. Don't try to be over-friendly or inquisitive but keep conversation simple and avoid getting too personal and heavy.

 

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