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Count Your Blessings

How you behave as a parents, conduct yourself, and the kind of choices you make with regards to your lifestyles have a deep impact on your child's value systems. Children, especially toddlers, love to imitate and model themselves after their adults around them. This is how they learn and pick up life skills.

Before children are capable of forming independent opinions of their own, they adopt their parents values to guide them on what is wrong and what is right. Qualities like gratitude, appreciation and contentment are what make us gracious and at ease with ourselves and the people around us. Without a sense of gratitude, we become complacent. We become incapable of appreciating the blessings in our lives.

We take the stability of our lives for granted. We take our loved ones for granted. We take others' kindness towards us for granted. Children who grow up in an appreciative and kind environment tend to become responsible and appreciative adults who are happy, reconciled, contented and at peace with themselves and others.

Teaching children gratitude is easy: you simply demonstrate it consistently in your daily interaction with them. There are many activities you can do with your children to help them cultivate a sense of gratitude.

Keep Gratitude Journals

Research shows that journal-keepers have better immune systems, greater feelings of wellbeing and fewer doctor visits. Younger children can start a gratitude scrapbook where they can past pictures of people, events or things that have special meanings to them. For older children, they can keep gratitude journals where they recount people and events which have touched their lives and how they are grateful for each. And teach them to say thank you for any help they receive. 

Be A Role Model

If you donate time and money to the less fortunate, you are sending a message to your children that this is important. Encourage them to give a portion of their pocket money to charity. Give away unwanted clothing and toys to the less fortunate. They can be involved by going along when you drop the items off. Tell your children about people who have nothing and why they should not take things for granted.

Cultivate A Grateful Spirit

Teach children that they do not necessarily see the results of efforts that they have put in immediately. Explain that it is normal to wait before they can see the fruits of their labor, and that rewards are sweeter if they wait and work for it. This way, your children will get to appreciate their successes more.

Say 'Thank You' Yourself

You can do simple things like place thank-you notes to your children on their beds or tables or on the refrigerator door (places where your children would go to at home), so they can get a pleasant surprise when they return from school. Simple gestures like a hug, a pat on the back and a smile can communicate your appreciation without the need for words.

Hugs cure depression, reduce stress, and boost immune systems. They are invigorating, rejuvenating, and cost nothing! Every person needs about three hugs a day according to psychologist. When you show gratitude to your children, they will learn to slow gratitude for others.


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