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Parents Should Set The Example


How parents behave, conduct themselves, and the kind of choices they make with regards to their lifestyles have a deep impact on their child's value systems. Children, especially toddlers, love to imitate and model themselves after the adults around them. This is how they learn and pick up life skills.

Before children are capable of forming independent opinions of their own, they adopt their parents' values to guide them on what is wrong and what is right. It is only natural that the choices we make in our adult lives, in terms of our career, partners and lifestyles, are to a certain extent influenced by our parents' values and the kind of upbringing we received when we were young.

Many of today's parents tend to place greater emphasis on academic achievements over character development. Children learn to be competitive and assertive. No doubt, these are good character traits to have; adults who possess these qualities have a higher chance of making it in their careers.

However when children become too competitive and results-oriented, they become selfcentred and less considerate of others. Qualities like gratitude, appreciation and contentment are what make us gracious and at ease with ourselves and the people around us. Without a sense of gratitude, we become complacent.

We become incapable of appreciating the blessings in our lives. We take the stability of our lives for granted. We take our loved ones for granted. We take others' kindness towards us for granted. When children learn that they cannot take the good things in life for granted, they become more appreciative.

They understand the importance of respecting themselves and others. They are also happy and content. Imbued with a sense of gratitude, our children would be other centred, and will naturally care about social issues affecting the world in which they are a part of. And of course, when they are grateful for their parents, children will truly understand the virtue of filial piety.

Better Sleeping Habits For Your Child

Experts generally recommend that parents train their infants to sleep at a designated place by the time they are three months old. By five months, your child's sleep habits would have been formed but this doesn't mean that your child is no longer trainable. Establishing a sleep routine that involves a degree a comfort and includes regular naps and bed times.

In planning the routine, observe your child and match the schedule to his sleep-wake cycles. If he is very much awake, then do not force him to sleep. To eventually have him feel secure enough to sleep on his own, develop bedtime rituals like humming him a lullaby or carrying him for 10 to 30 minutes.

If you carry him before he sleeps, put him in his cot when he is very drowsy, and just ready to doze off. He may wake up a little but resist the urge to pick him up. Stay close and soothe him gently if necessary. Eventually, your child will see this as part of his sleep routine and will be able to develop the ability to comfort himself. If you intend to have your baby sleep on your bed, then take the necessary precautions to ensure that he's kept safe.

 

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