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Sustaining Interests In Enrichment Activities


Some children don't know how to talk about the way they feel. They resist or say they don't want to continue after one or two lessons. Often, all it needs is time. Let your child know that you'd like him to try a few more lessons. He may settle in and start to enjoy the lessons. If it's really not working out, don't make him feel like a failure.

He may not be interested in the subject matter. It takes some trial and error to discover an activity and instructor that is a good fit. Don't be frustrated by the process. Speak to the instructor if your child is being made fun of in class, or if he's having difficulty following the lessons.

Be patient and talk to your child. Don't be confrontational or get angry. Find out what's going on first. Children want their parents' approval. If your child sees that you're upset, he may just continue with the class to make you happy and if the class isn't working out for him, he suffers in the long run.

You've heard horror stories about pushy parents - don't become one! You want your child to have an enjoyable experience in his enrichment class and not a stressful experience driven by a need to "achieve". Remember, just because you read about a five-year-old piano prodigy doesn't mean that your five-year-old is ready for piano lessons.

Similarly, not every child is going to enjoy playing the piano just because his parents enjoyed it or because his parents didn't get lessons when they were young. It's a very fine line between nurturing your child talents and pushing him to take on more than he can handle. Learning should be enriching and enjoyable - for your child and for you.

Children Sense Of Security

Children are either securely or insecurely attached and the quality of attachment depends a lot on parental style. While securely attached children have consistently warm and responsive parents, insecurely attached children aren't quite sure that the parents will be there when they need them. These children tend (but not always) to grow up insecure too.

To ensure a secure attachment, be sensitive and take cues from your child. What signals is your child giving you? Here are some recommended practices:

  • Holding and caressing.
  • Comforting when your child cries.
  • Speak warmly.
  • Establishing eye contact and smiling at him as you speak.
  • Playing games such as "peck-a-boo" or "this little piggy".
  • Maintaining a stable environment and routine.
  • Enjoying your child and his or her unique self.
 

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