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Imparting Values In Young Mind


Every parent wants the best for their child. But besides achieving good grades in school, it's equally important for children to be equipped with the right values. Respect for others, honesty and kindness are just some values that parents ought to impart in their children. Values, however, are not always easy for young children to grasp or learn.

Building Self-Esteem

For a young child to be socially competent, he must first be confident about himself. Thus, building strong and positive self-esteem is important. A child who feels loved and competent is more likely to have a healthy sense of social and emotional well-being.

What Can Parents Do?

  • Communicate regularly with your child, so you're fully aware of how he feels and can lend support readily.
  • Recognise your child's abilities and successes. Praise, encourage and celebrate, even for small efforts taken to accomplish a task.
  • Share with them stories about how you/others learnt through mistakes and that it's alright to make mistakes.
  • Help children to recognise and verbalise their feelings; help them to solve problems in a constructive manner.

How To Tell If A Child Has A Problem Showing Kindness

  • Does the child show empathy towards others (including animals, plants and other living things in the environment)?
  • Does the child take good care of his possessions, and those of others?
  • Is the lack of empathy or care for possessions a deliberate act of the child or due to an inability to express it?

What Can Parents Do?

  • Model behaviors that you wish your children to practise.
  • Help children express their feelings. Guide them in using appropriate words.
  • Create suitable opportunities for children to show kindness.
  • Demonstrate kind, non-aggressive methods of communication.

Being Honest

How To Tell If A Child Has A Problem Being Honest

  • Does the child consistently bring home things that do not belong to him?
  • Do you constantly end up confused when you try to get a straight answer from him?
  • Does the child feel bad about breaking his promises?

What Can Parents Do?

  • Do not over-react if children exhibit dishonest behavior. Giving too much attention may actually reinforce that behavior. The child may become inclined to repeat it as it gets him attention.
  • Be sensitive. On the one hand, children must not think that morally unacceptable conduct is all right; on the other, they shouldn't be frightened to such a degree that they're afraid to admit and discuss it with you.
  • Establish a positive parent-child relationship. Children need to feel safe to be frank, open and honest with their parents.
  • Do not put children in a spot when they're caught lying or stealing.
  • Discuss misbehavior when you're calm and children don't feel threatened.

How To Tell If A Child Lacks A Sense Of Responsibility

  • Does the action truly reflect irresponsibility or is it just typical childish behavior?
  • Does the child's action upset the home routine? Every child has a tendency to ignore rules.

What Can Parents Do?

  • Provide children with opportunities to be responsible. Allow them the freedom to make decisions and learn from their mistakes.
  • Set appropriate expectations. The expected action or behavior should match the child's intellectual, physical and emotional abilities.
  • Take time to show children how to do an assigned task correctly. However, focus on what they're learning about responsibility and recognise their efforts.
 

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