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Neglecting The Obvious


According to life coach Agnes, what is most likely to cause feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness with life arc the heavy responsibilities we bear. Often, people feel trapped by their jobs: they are coping but not happy and wish they could align their jobs with what excites them, what they are passionate about. Family expectations and the struggle to make ends meet are also common issues people have a hard time dealing with.

What exacerbates matters is the nature of the hectic society we live in. The concept of quality of life in many cities, has come to be defined by how many material possessions one can acquire. While there is nothing wrong with enjoying the material luxuries, the danger lies in people embracing the fallacy that a designer home or luxury car will help them have a better quality of life.

Not surprisingly; they often end up disappointed. Then, they fall into the vicious cycle of devoting more time to the pursuit of more and more material possessions while making themselves miserable thinking about why they can't acquire these things. So what is the new, yardstick against which quality of life should accurately - and more practically - be measured?

Simple: how much you actually enjoy in your own life and the time spent with loved ones. Humans, being social creatures, get the greatest rewards from maintaining and developing good relationships. We should measure quality of life by the balance in our day-to-day state - physical health, emotional and mental well-being and spiritual wellness.

Looking at it in another way, it's re-stating that ubiquitous Psych 101 theory, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It says that humans need to satisfy five levels of needs: physiological well-being (food and water, for instance), safety, love, esteem and self-actualisation. Essentially, human beings are motivated by unsatisfied needs, and lower needs need to be satisfied before higher needs can be worked on.

Perhaps we're doing it all wrong when we try to work in the opposite direction - wearing ourselves out chasing after that gorgeous two-door Peugeot we've been coveting for ages when eve don't even have time for a sit-down dinner with our love ones.

 

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